“If the guy wants to have sex and stuff like that in this relationship and she’ll look and she’ll say and if he hasn’t taken the garbage out in the last five days well she’s not going to be very interested.” – Dr. Ruth Westheimer
The Difference Between Libido and Sexual Dysfunction
Understanding the Complexities of Desire and Arousal
There is a distinction between libido issues and sexual dysfunction issues, with libido referring to the desire to have sex and sexual dysfunction encompassing a range of performance issues. For women, decreased libido can be a source of concern if it affects their overall satisfaction and happiness in a relationship.
While hormonal factors play a role in libido, there are also numerous other factors that can impact a woman’s desire for sex, such as relationship dynamics, physical discomfort, fatigue, and overall life stressors. It’s important to address these underlying issues to improve overall sexual well-being.
The Circular Model of Desire
Renowned Professor Rosemary Bassan has proposed a circular model of desire for women, emphasizing the interconnectedness of desire, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction. This model suggests that improving the relationship can enhance desire and vice versa, highlighting the complexity of female sexual desire.
For men, the conventional linear model of desire may not always apply, as emotional closeness and relationship quality can significantly impact their partner’s willingness to engage in sexual activities. Shared responsibilities and emotional connection play a vital role in maintaining a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship.
Creating Balance and Connection in Relationships
Building a strong foundation of communication, support, and mutual respect can enhance intimacy and desire in relationships. Recognizing and addressing the factors that contribute to diminished libido or sexual dysfunction is essential for promoting sexual well-being and overall relationship satisfaction.
Share Your Thoughts
What are your thoughts on the connection between desire, intimacy, and relationship satisfaction? How do you believe relationship dynamics influence sexual desire in couples? Share your perspectives and experiences in the comments below.
If you don’t like your husband you don’t want to have sex !!!!
Whatever. A large percentage of men only want their screens, they’re obsessed with violent fetishes. They’ll throw women aside for secks robots and artificial wombs once they become available.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Libido vs. dysfunction – For a woman, it is sometimes possessing an imagination.
In sophomore psychology I learned instinct #1 is self-preservation, followed closely by #2 species preservation. I have figured out that #2 is manifested by the conscious need for orgasm, not the need to reproduce. Often the wish to reproduce is thwarted by the use of birth control and the many other ways of obtaining orgasm. Even if only 1in 10,000 result in pregnancy, that's enough.
Normalize delegation of sex for your husband if the wife is no longer interested.
When’s the last time you helped your husband mow the lawn or wash the car or make home repairs?
I was there when Viagra for women was being developed. 95% of sexual issues were mental in women. In men it’s 95% physical.
It gets more complex and complicated when you dive deeper into the issues.
Libido control can be compartmentalized.
how disrespectful to men to say we are 'simple' beings. We have the desire for intimacy , understanding, love, closeness etc too. We are not dogs that just want to do it.
Ill help w housework…if SHE helps wit da rent 😊🎉
'WANTING TO WANT'… ?
good info and finally non political lol
Megyn would be on hrt for sure her skin for starter's etc
Sex is overrated and a good BM is underrated 🥸
I tried sex a few times and thought it was overrated and kinda gross. I need my space. I'll never do it again and haven't for 15 years.
Kissing and Foreplay are very important.
Also, make love like Art. Feel, try to understand what every stroke means.
Change the rhythm. And work the angles. Enter Slowly is important 😊
I'm an old fellow and honestly not interested.
These days just being nice and polite, too often make some ladies uncomfortable. Personally not a pleasant feeling for me.
Had 5 kids, 7 grandkids and one great grandkid ,that's where my mind is these days. ❤
A man needs to apologize for his boorish behavior when needed and recognize when you’re guilty. It does wonders for her receptiveness.
Nice conversation.. but bring a man into it.. too
Foreplay for the evening begins first thing in the morning. 😉
hmmm, these women are big on shared responsibility for household chores, but they don't ever talk about shared responsibility of actually PAYING for the house… inequality is fine in that area. I'm not a dinosaur, certainly in some cases women make more of the money, but still in the majority of couples the man makes more, yet that get's zero consideration.
So in a nutshell, it's all the man's fault.
It helps if BOTH are satisfied in the end. Not just the sane one person just because they don't care enough to put in the effort for their partner.
A Trans on the Screen ….Again ?
As a 78-year old man I still love sex it's just not top priority for me anymore
16 years and counting
I learned early in my 19 years of marriage that doing a couple of household chores was the quickest way to get my wife turned on. That was one of Dr. Minkin's points during this appearance, but it sure hit home with me.
P.S. The opposite was also true.
Is there anyway i can decrease libido? I mean by a lot. Asking for a friend.
Ps Megyn ,I doubt that you have all the house chores to do it maybe 15 years ago prior to your mega income . However it would apply to regular couples working even 2 jobs struggling to make ends meet .
What's going on with your husband Megyn?
I can help 😂
So Alan’s love life depends on taking out the garbage…
Very educational video for sure. It would be good for a couples to watch & discuss it with each other to better to understand each other issues
Hi Kelly .
Hello have great nice day thanks my love of life great have you my girlfriend ❤❤